Wednesday, December 10, 2014 / 9:27 am
TrevorLive: Red Carpet Talk
At the TrevorLive event on Sunday night, Katherine Heigl told LBGT Hollywood about the importance of finding someone to talk to in times of need.
She explained that having that support was the only thing that helped her through difficult moments in her youth, including the loss of her brother Jason and her mother's battle with cancer.
The red carpet conversation switched to motherhood as People magazine asked Katherine about her two daughters - Naleigh, 6, and Adalaide 2½. The State Of Affairs star explained that her youngest girl had recently become very vocal. "She won't stop talking," Heigl said, adding that her youngest is learning to stand her ground. "She goes, 'No, no, no. I know it's so cliché, but I hear that word 100 times a day. It's literally what is happening every day."
Although her 6-year-old daughter skipped that phase, Heigl says Naleigh "started talking like gangbusters and hasn't stopped talking for five years. Except to sleep at night."
With the holidays right around the corner, Katherine revealed that the family plan is to stay close to home before heading South to soak up some sun. "We're keeping it chill and mellow in our homes in Utah," Heigl says. However, since the actress is a self-proclaimed 'bad flier,' the family of four won't be going far. "I try to go the least farthest possible," she jokes of their upcoming getaway to Mexico.
TrevorLive is a yearly event put on by The Trevor Project, an organization that helps LGBT youth who are struggling with suicidal ideation. But when it comes to her own girls - and her best friend, former Grey's Anatomy actor T.R. Knight - Heigl says there's not much to discuss. "We don't treat it like it's anything to talk about. It just is," she says. "I have gay friends... My best friend in the entire world is T.R. They come and spend the holidays with us. My daughters know it's just Uncle T.R. and Uncle Patrick [Leahy]."
Celebified continued the parenting theme, asking asked Katherine what was the best part of being a mom.
On a completely different note, Glamour wanted to know what was Katherine's favorite Saturday morning TV show as a kid. "I was a big Fraggle Rock fan! I watched it religiously. It was sort of irreverent and weird, and this very strange imaginative world that you almost believe exists," she told reporters.
Dish Nation asked her what advice she would have for her younger self. "Stop whining," Katherine laughed. "No, what would I say? Probably just stop caring so much what everybody thinks. And it's really hard to do. But when I look back now, and I look at all those people whose opinions I valued so much or whose idea of me mattered so much, I haven't spoken to or seen any of them since I graduated," she added, noting that wisdom comes with age. "How could their opinions have been the be-all-end-all of what made me day or broke my day. It's hard to understand that when you're young, to have that perspective, but I just beg our youth to try."
AfterEllen were interested in hearing about Katherine's upcoming movie Jenny's Wedding, in which she plays a lesbian whose impending gay nuptials rock her conservative family to the core.
AfterEllen: Could you tell us about your lesbian character and her journey in the upcoming film Jenny's Wedding?
Katherine Heigl: Jenny is a young Midwestern woman living in Ohio. The story is actually loosely based on the director's niece, who knew she was gay for years before coming out to her family and friends. When she felt she could no longer live without making the decision to come out to her family, it wasn't easy, and it wasn't embraced the way it might be in a different time or place. Jenny's Wedding is a really beautiful story, wonderfully written from every perspective. From the parent's perspective, they'd never really gone there, their minds were unaware of the possibility because it's not like they have gay or lesbian friends. They have to educate themselves, to open their minds and consider possibilities they'd never even considered.
AfterEllen: Is your character and her family able to overcome those differences?
Katherine Heigl: In the end, Jenny's parents realize that their daughter means so much more to them than the label or judgement society throws on to her. It's beautiful.
AfterEllen: I know Jenny's Wedding is looking for a distributor, do you know if the producers have found one yet or been able to set a release date?
Katherine Heigl: I'm not sure; I wasn't a producer on Jenny's Wedding, just the hired actor. I'm not sure where they're at but I certainly hope so. It's a beautiful film that I'm incredibly proud of.
AfterEllen: Over the years you've been a huge ally and supporter of The Trevor Project. Why is tonight important to you?
Katherine Heigl: I think this is the first Trevor Project event I've attended, so I'm really grateful to have been asked. I just think the work they're doing is incredibly important, and I want to do anything I can to raise awareness so everyone out there knows that help is available. No matter what hardship or heartbreak young gay youth are going through, there are people who care and are here to listen.
AfterEllen: In our brief lifetimes, the gay community has made an immense amount of progress. As a mother, what kind of change would you like your children to grow up to see?
Katherine Heigl: I hope that, for them, this isn't even a topic of conversation anymore. I don't talk to my children about lesbians or gays or what that means; I show them through my friends, my lifestyle, and the people most important to me. It's not something I feel like I need to discuss or explain. They'll get it, because they're around it all the time. My best friend in the whole wide world is T.R. Knight, and when I bring my kids around him and his husband Patrick, I don't feel I need to explain why T.R. married a man. They can figure it out, and it won't be unnatural or not normal to them. Kids don't care! Kids only judge it because we tell them to. That's on us.