Calling in from her Utah home on January
27th, Katherine joined a teleconference with a group of moms
representing various blogs relating to parenting and children,
to answer questions about her own experiences and challenges as
a new mom.
Bridget Nielsen: The first question
comes from Marissa from Review Stew and her question is,
"How did being a mother in real life help you in your role
in Life As We Know It?"
Katherine Heigl: It was actually such a
fascinating time in my life because I had just become a
mother and I was more - hopefully, a little more prepared
than Holly was, but there are things about motherhood that
you just don't know until you're in it. You try to get
everything ready and it all becomes about the nursery, the
car seat, the proper stroller, the right food and all of
this stuff and then suddenly you're sort of thrown into it
and Naleigh came to us about two months sooner than we were
So we were really just kind of thrown right into the fire
and when I watch the movie now I think it kind of hurt me
because I was so distracted by being a new mom that there
are moments in my performance where I feel like, "Ugh, I
could have done that better" or that should have been more
powerful or something, because my mind was always on my kid
and I always wanted to be with her. That was just such a
strange, weird time in my life because I was working on this
movie I was so passionate about and so excited about, but I
was longing to be at home with my kid getting to know her
But I think it helped - it certainly
helps the frazzled-ness of Holly's character. I agree with
Bridget Nielsen: Amy from Progressive Pioneer, her
question - which I love - is "Being in the public eye so
much and feeling like people know so much about you, how do
you maintain your real self, the self that's really you and
not just what other people expect you to be?"
Katherine Heigl: Well, my problem is I
actually have too much of me most of the time. I'm trying to
actually learn the exact opposite of that. It sounds like
one of those backwards compliments where I'm too forthright
and too honest but I kind of am. I don't censor myself well,
I just sort of tell everybody everything I'm thinking or
feeling - who I am pretty much. What you get is me, I am
very much just myself. The problem with that is I think
sometimes my ideas or my opinions or my trying to work
things out in my own mind - I tend to work it out verbally
I think it can sometimes confuse people or maybe offend
people. I almost need to learn how to be a little bit more
private to keep a little bit more of myself under wraps, but
I just have a hard time without my family. We've always just
been really honest about all the joys, all of the pain, all
of the rewards and all the failures and we have just kind of
been that way. So, it's hard for me to not tell everybody
everything about myself.
Bridget Nielsen: I think that's what makes you lovable.
Good answer. The next question is from Jen at Jen's
List. She asked, "Is your husband Mr. Mom when you're on the
Katherine Heigl: He's one of the most
amazing fathers I've ever run into. I didn't expect him not
to be a great dad, but I also didn't expect him expect him
to be such an excellent father. He is so wonderfully
involved. Initially, of course, if I was leaving or needed
him to kind of step in, "You have diapers, right? You have
wipes, right? You know what time she goes down?" It took
about a week before I realized this guy's got it way better
under control than I do. He's just so great and so involved
and he works as well as a musician and has a really exciting
career that he's really passionate about.
I wish we could do that whole, when I'm working, you're not
working, alternating thing but we're both sort of at a place
in our careers where we want to keep the momentum going. You
cant always step out of what you're into, just to be with me
and Naleigh and vice-versa. I cant always control when films
are going to come up, he might be on tour and I could have a
big movie that I really want to do.
So it's a constant balancing act and I was recently talking
to a friend about the idea that as women we can have it all.
You know, they will say that to us "Oh, you can have it all.
You can have a career. You can have a family. You can have a
love life." You can, it's just it doesn't always feel the
way you want it too and lots of times my husband and I don't
get to spend a lot of time together as a family, like a
traditional family does, and those are the compromises we
made to have careers that are always sort of in flux and
schedules that are crazy and all of those things. You're at
work and you're longing to be with your family or with your
family and you're going, "Gee, I wonder what it's like on
So, it's that perpetual balance. He tries really hard to at
least come in for weekends when we're on location and tries
to schedule tours and radio dates and stuff around little
blocks of time that we can be together. It's hard. It's
hard. I wish he could be Mr. Mom.
Bridget Nielsen: Well, that's great,
though. I'm very happy for you. It's always great to have a
Katherine Heigl: Yes. Great dad.
Bridget Nielsen: So, the next question
comes from Melissa. She is from Sippy Cup Mom. The mom blogs
all have amazing names.
Katherine Heigl: All of these
blogs I'm really excited about. I didn't even know they were
there - I'm not very good with Google searching. So, I'm
really excited now I have this list of blogs I can go to.
It's so great to have advice. It is sometimes so hard to
just find silly things out, you know?
Bridget Nielsen: Yes. It's great to have the resources as
Katherine Heigl: Yes. Totally.
Bridget Nielsen: So, her question is,
"Have you or are you going to introduce any Korean customs
and celebrations, you know, in honor of your new daughter?"
Katherine Heigl: Yes, it's funny because we've just
recently been talking about this. She's a little over two
now and we're kind of going, well, what's a good way to give
her the option at least to explore her culture without
making her feel like she has to if she doesn't want to.
We're talking maybe like it would be kind of interesting
having fun together in Korean language classes, as I'm not
sure about my children being able to speak languages I
can't, because what if they're saying horrible things to you
and you don't know.
We also ran into a family here in Utah who are Korean and
they were celebrating - I can't quite remember the name -
but it was a custom to celebrate the first birthday of the
child with this big sort of hoopla kind of Korean
celebration. I thought, "Well, we didn't do that because we
didn't know", so it might be interesting to try to
incorporate some of that into her life. My sister is Korean
so I think it would be fun for her as well, to maybe get to
explore some of these things and make them a part of our
Bridget Nielsen: That's great.
Katherine Heigl: Well, I'll say I don't know how - if
we'll nail it or not.