Tuesday, May 25, 2010 / 3:13 pm
Discussing Adoption & Parental Responsibility
At the press junket in Los Angeles for her new action comedy "Killers", Katherine spoke with reporters about her daughter Naleigh whom she and husband Josh Kelley adopted from South Korea in September 2009. She discussed the adoption process and the importance of understanding the responsibilities that come with parenthood.
"It feels kind of selfish to not adopt when you know that there are so many needy children but it [the adoption process] is lengthy and complicated and you had better hope there is nothing in your background that they will find because they do a million background checks, which they should do, and there is fingerprinting and meetings and they come to your home and make you fill out a form. I also think that anyone who wants to have a child should fill out this form because it forces you to answer questions you probably wouldn't have thought about unless it was put in front of you. You assume that you and your partner are on the same page about most things. But it asks questions like ‘do you plan to raise them religiously? What kind of disciplinarian do you plan to be? Is your family going to be involved in their lives? What kind of education do you plan to give them?' So you have to think about how you feel as a unit about these things."
Asked if she was concerned that the parents will leave South Korea and come to the United States to find their child, she says that, for better or worse, it's unlikely to happen. "I don't think so. The situation in Korea is that if you are an unwed mother it is very hard for you to keep your child and essentially if they don't have a father who will claim the child you don't have a birth certificate. If you don't have that then you are not accepted into society. It [giving a child up for adoption] is one of the toughest choices anyone would have to make in their lives but it is really the only choice they can make if they want this child to have a shot. It's very unfortunate but it's cultural."